How do I fit in verses other subs? Good question. As we've talked about, I'm a switch. For me fetish play is about cathartic release, which comes with intense domestic role play. Other times, it is about light hearted fun. Some of the people in my fetish circles are fully submissive to their partner at all times. I've known couples who are very happy this way. That is great for them. For me, as I sense you do, I keep it in the emotional release or fun category.