That is how it is with my wife. She is a dominant. Sometimes I wonder if she feels out of control at work and likes to take the reigns for cathartic relief. It is the opposite with me. I run a sizable business and, damn, need to hand control over. Throw in a hot female being the one to take control and I'm all in. It doesn't take much for me to start craving it. The only thing that I see as escalating the desire is how long I've been without it.