Domspeak Forums Thread Like Summary - Moving Through Comfort Zones

Have you found yourself loving activities that you once thought you'd never engage in? Strap on, G/S and ball busting were on my "No list," first starting out. Come to find out, I really liked all of these things. I think of it as a putting a frog in a boiling pan of water and it will jump right out. Put it in a cold pan of water, on a slow simmer, and it's body temperature will adjust. That is how it was for me as a young woman coming into my comfort zones as a dom. A personal slave came across an interview I had done for one of the NYC publications in which I listed my limits of all of the above. He was laughing as he said, "Mistress, is this really your interview?" He thought it was the funniest thing. It is interesting how we get curious and then go from one room to the next. Before you know it, we are hosting a party on the roof top. What has your experience been like?

I sought out Christianity as a child. My parents were not Christians, although that changed later in life for them. I recruited half of our family only to leave the faith in my late 20's. The first two things I did, in order, was watch Monty Phyton's The Life of Brian and become a professional dominatrix. I still had nagging feelings about boot or foot "Worship." I asked my clients to call it adoration. Strap on was a huge no, mainly because of my Christian roots. Then, one day, I was at a fellow dom's studio for a guest appearance and video. She talked me into one. That was it. I loved having 10" inches that I could dominate people with and take it off when I was done. I also had a hard time with heavy corporal. As a practicing dom, in the early days, I was a light to medium player. That changed too. Funny how it takes some of us a while to move through zones and some of us run to it. I love your confidence though. It is inspiring.

Thank you. It is nice to be able to reflect and share our experiences with people of a like mind. Troy Orleans and I have mutual friends. I've heard so many wonderful things about her. One of these days, I need to meet her.

It makes complete sense to trusting your dom and having a good rapport. For me, activities came to be secondary to the chemistry in the room.

I’ve had hundreds of sessions by now and I’ve seen a hundred dommes. Almost all were good or even great! But four were/are special. The great long-retired Mistress Brianna of DC was the first domme I saw over and over again—for 12 years. She is the one who truly taught me the good and bad about BDSM. She was so talented! I learned to appreciate electrical with her and heavier bondage and sensual torment with her than I ever imagined. Overlapping her by a few years, I saw Scarlett Devine and a wrestler-domme for about 10 years. Scarlett taught me to try appreciate role-play, which the wrestler-domme who came a little later reinforced. The latter challenged me physically like no one else — she literally used and abused me in ways so incredibly erotic and at times painful that I could barely walk and function after seeing her. I never thought I’d want that but I became instantly so addicted. If others knew what she did to me they would be very jealous. But I never told and we repeated over and over for a decade. My current domme—for almost 15 years—may be the greatest of them all. I trust her so completely I’d try almost anything with her. She has taught me to love foot worship, some anal play, including experimenting with strap-on (though it’s still baby steps there), and especially intense nipple torture where I’ve learned I have a true masochistic streak. I had never wanted Brianna to hurt my nipples—I wish she would come back for one day for her to enjoy that with me now! With my current domme, I can submit for hours and it never gets old. She has infinite patience to do what she wants for as long as she wants and amazingly never tires. She’s the most remarkable domme I’ve ever known and I can’t imagine I could ever know one who could be greater! I feel so fortunate to have had these fantastic women in my life!

You've had such great experiences. I think of Brianna from time to time and wonder how she is doing. She was such a remarkable person and fantastic dom. Your experiences with Scarlett Devine sound intriguing. You have been a lucky man to have had two such wonderful dom relationships.

JBeast,

Your mentioning Mistress Lissette bought back some great memories for me. I sessioned with her a number of times and she was just fantastic in every way. She had a real gift for connecting with me, and told me some things about my life and attraction to BDSM that were just so right on pint. She was gifted in ways that went beyond her skills as a Dominatrix and had an endless supply of positive energy. I loved seeing her and was very disappointed when she retired and moved on with her life. I hope she is doing well and living a good life.

Mistress Lissette was one of a kind. I was fortunate enough to see her shortly before she retired.