I think I'd fall in the 80%.
I prefer at least the illusion of being "forced" into submission.....ie bondage to render me helpless and immediate discipline for failure to obey any instructions.
Being ordered to lick the soles of her boots isn't a turn on.....knowing if I refused I'll be punished with increasing intensity until I did is.
FWIW When I was in a longterm relationship that included BDSM the D/s aspect was strictly restricted to playtimes and time "in session" .
Last edited by furfan; 10/17/2024 02:50 PM.
