Domspeak Forums Discussions Lobby Your Version of Aftercare

My usual session is 2 to 4 hours of highly intense corporal and bondage. I like the session to be conducted hardcore and cruel with obvious safety standards. The best cathartic end was a Mistress that would, cooly. instruct me to clean the dungeon afterwards. She would sit a carrier of cleaning supplies and towels in the room and walk out without another word. Cleaning up my sweat and, often times, blood while making certain the equipment she used to torture me was sanitized was fitting. It brought closure to a deep experience. I'm not much on the hugs and smiles afterwards. This probably goes against the grain of most.

That is intriguing. I can't imagine going to such a level. It is something I might watch in a movie but wouldn't do. For me, I like the friendliness at the end. It is an additional bonus when she allows me to take her lunch or for coffee afterwards.

I am with Ted B here, your sessions sound very interesting. They would be far out of my comfort zone but make for a great video. My sessions are exclusively with my wife and I doing a couple session with a Domme. It would be nice to go our drinks afterwards. Aside from that a friendly exchange at the end is fine. If it were only me, I might feel differently. The wife and I unwind together and talk about the experience together.

The lifestyle groups I attend play hard too. There are plenty of light play parties. But, some can be very much on the edge. We are always set up for comforting aftercare with blankets and comforting reassurance. One group keeps hot chocolate on hand, which I love. It is a soft way to come back to earth. There are players who are energized by the experience and walk around the party naked, showing off their marks or piercings. They've been tended to, with alcohol applied applied, but no warm fuzzies for them. They are on fire. A few of my hardcore corporal friends have told me the emotional crash comes in the next day or two.

That is a hot scenario. Post session exchanges for me were always a friendly send off. I found most people wanted it that way. They had their fun and then back to normal life. If someone needed a little more, due to a deeper experience, I never minded taking time with them.

I've only experienced this in the making videos. From what I've seen or been directly involved in, it is important. The needs of the submissives vary according to the person and the situation. People on the set made sure to give the slave comfort, more orders, praise, whatever it was they needed. Most of my video work was FemDom/malesub. I did shoot a couple for a FemDom/femsub production house. Those scenes were the most extreme of all. They went for hours and required a lot of comfort and praise.

I fall into the friendly chat over a glass of water school...sometimes after a quick shower and then a send off that involves thanks and often a hug.

That's a pretty cold way to end what is usually a deeply personal and physically demanding experience, but I can see how it might appeal to someone plays very hard and doesn't want or need a pleasant goodbye. At the end of a good session, I am usually both emotionally and physically exhausted and need a few minutes just to recover from subspace and get my bearings. Fortunately the Dommes I have sessioned with have recognized this and have been understanding and generous in allowing me some time to get myself together. After my last session, with MVC, it actually was difficult for me just to put my clothes back on because I was so deep in subspace when the session ended. Fortunately, she thought it was funny and insisted I slow down and take my time.

I have also had the pleasure of taking a Domme out for a drink and or a bite to eat after a session and that was always the very best way to call it a day.