If I am understanding you correctly, I agree. Being gay doesn't mean you have to identify as the opposite gender. I recently had a situation at my family home in Ohio. It is a white picket fence community that is full of young families and a few retirees. The young person I hired to help with yard work is a great young person. I just assumed this person was a masculine female. Then I realized her mother refers to her child as a boy. The kid is so nice, seems to be well grounded and likable in every way. So, whatever is going on there, is none of my business. It is just odd to call an obvious female a boy. But, whatever, as long as people are happy not subjecting their children to mutilation surgery.