Domspeak Forums Discussions Lobby How Often Do You Session?

My meter is set for about every 3 months. It is cycle that some times gets old but keeps repeating. Session. Relive it for weeks. Shake it off. Start getting the itch. Make the arrangements to session again. If I wasn't married, I'd be an every other week client or even personal slave.

It is about the same for me. What prompts me in when my travel schedule. If I'm going to be in an area where I have an established relationship with a Domme, it is a priority to see her. It is the same if I'm in a new area with a Domme that has my interest but I haven't seen before. It works out to be every two to three months. When I was in my early 30's and single, it was twice a month, at least. There were vacations with Dommes and sometimes their friends on top of that. These days, I'm content with less as long as they are fulfilling.

This is a fascinating question. I had a long post, but I'll boil it down to this. Whether I was in my 20s in the '70s or my 70s in the '20s, my frequency of sessions all turned out to be based on the following: time; cash; and guilt. (Oh guilt does still come in.) I've been active over a few decades, where I dropped out a several times for a few years. At my busiest, it would be six or eight times a year, depending upon the three reasons - PLUS who I was a regular with at the time or who I HAD to see at the time. With the Mistress I have served the past several years, who I have known off and on for at least a couple of decades, I do some work for her, we are friends (not romantic) outside of sessions and she sometimes gives me an AARP rate. LOL! When she retires so will I. So again, at my best, six or eight times a year.

The guilt is a killer. I've come to accept my urges and respect how much I stand by my family. Regular sessions makes me a better family man. Without them, I'd grumpy or trying to push something on my wife that she doesn't want. It is a balance.

I'm lucky to be a personal slave. Most every day, I have interaction with Goddess. Real play time comes once or twice a year. I'd like for it to be more often. Once a week would be divine.

Interesting that folks seem to be in that once every 2 to the 3 months frequency, which is exactly the same foe me. I usually session for 3 or 4 hours at a time and that seems to scratch my itch for 3 months or so, at which time I start to plan my next session. Guilt and money doesn't factor into it, it is more a matter of feeding that need to submit when I start to feel in]t growing beyond something I can live without.

My wife and I have a home dungeon. We play at least once a month. It was more often in the beginning but after a long day we don't always feel like making a big production of things. Our formal sessions with a professional are once or twice a year. Now and then, we get a strip club session just for fun.

Interesting topic. I had a handful of weekly and monthly clients. The average client was every two to three months. Maybe that is the itching spot or what people can afford.

Id like to say that like the op if I wasn’t married id be a personal slave or every other week sessioner but the truth is I’ve got adult kids I’m close with and this would lead to a lot of questions so probably not. My reality is I haven’t had a session in over a year. I’ve tried to set a couple up but haven’t been able to make it happen. It’s frustrating but it is what it is. My circumstances are what they are.

Assuming most married guys are doing this in secret Id like to know how in this day and age with everything being online and easily accessible, how do married guys , especially retirees, manage to save the cash required to session without raising questions from their wife?
I mean you can’t just go to the atm and repeatedly withdraw large sums of cash, can you?