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I've read about a sub's emotions bottoming out after a session. My wife and I session together so I don't go through that. We have each other to talk about the session and take in a few strip club sessions if we need to. However, I'm finding that when a Mistress cancels, even if legitimately so, it is an emotional hit. My wife and I plan vacations around having professional sessions. The Mistress immediately refunded our deposit. I'd still book with her again if out her way. But it was such a let down. I wouldn't have expected it would hit me so hard. On top of that, I am trying to keep my wife in good spirits. It sounds petty. We are fortunate enough to take nice vacations a couple times a year. Is it normal to feel like someone punched you in the gut when you get canceled on? I'm feeling like a lightweight for allowing this to effect me so much.

You aren't alone. My sessions begin from the second I start thinking about it. Deciding who to see and going through the booking process is part of it. If it is a local session, I feel guilty for not going with this one or that one and wonder if they talk. It is all still exciting. I've had a few last minute cancels and plain out no shows. It is rare but it happens. There have been an occasional disappointment with a new or visiting Mistress. That is rare too. I do my homework. When it does fall apart, which has been on my end a couple of times, it is a big let down. The emotional drop you are experiencing is normal. It is good you have a wife who is involved with you on it. It could lessen the blow.

I've been in situations where long anticipated parties cancel on short notice. It is a let down. Like you, I've never been wronged out of advance door money. The drop is still there. The party may have not have been good. But, when trying to distract myself with a movie or dinner with friends instead, I keep thinking it would have been the best ever. Our brains are not always kind to us.