Domspeak Forums Discussions Lobby Is Stress a Factor in Needing to Play?

When I lived in Chicago there were playgroups at least once a week. I never experienced a deep craving for kink interaction like I am now. It is distracting. A trip to Chitown is in order. My job has been so stressful lately. It has me wondering if that is a factor in this sudden need. I feel like a werewolf during a full moon.

"Werewolf"? Hell yeah. That's why Mistress calls me "beast." Except in recent weeks it is absolutely off the charts.

Recently I've driven Mistress on errands a few times and she always slaps me in the face as a greeting, grabbing my chest hair and talking trash. It has been more intense in between I've had two full sessions with her in three weeks. I have been under outside stress, but with the Mistress' attention... anticipation in meeting her as a driver or session is off the charts. After the two recent sessions, got home and napped in the middle of the day. Quite unusual. Then I woke up both times and within hours, or the next day, I'm completely distracted craving another session. Immediately, like I'm insatiable, which is an amazing feeling but unsustainable. Drove her twice the past few days and she told me not to text this week, only email, she will be busy at work. Mistress texted me a pic of hers when she was active... so she's not helping the situation. LOL! I'm anticipating a session within the week or shortly thereafter when she is free. At least I'm craving it... waiting for her to say when.

Hey Miss Mary, great question.

I understand from your previous posts that you are a switch and enjoy BDSM from both the top and sub perspective. I can't speak to stress impacting the need/desire to play for a top, but from my own submissive perspective I can say with certainty that stress levels absolutely impact me. My career and personal lives have a long history of being the person "in charge" and making all the important, and difficult, decisions. That obligation creates a high degree of stress that at times is just overpowering. When that happens I know I need to offer myself to a Dominatrix who will accept my surrender and remove all decisions and choices from me during our time together. When the chemistry is right and that Domme has pushed my limits to the point where I am physically and emotionally exhausted, I have a strong sense of peace and feel "grounded", ready to go back to my real life until feeling that stress level returns and I again offer myself up in a long session.

Stress certainly is a driver for me, but I also recognize that I absolutely love BDSM and would be involved in it regardless of the effect of stress in my life. I also think I am fortunate to have BDSM to help manage the stress in my life. Some people are unable to find a way to manage it and suffer severe health consequences while others turn to destructive coping measures such as alcohol or drug abuse, gambling and other damaging behaviors.