In the early days of doming, I couldn't relate to the niche either. After spending time with clients and scene friends, not only did I come to understand it but it became a turn on. It isn't about a cage around your gentleman parts. it is' about control. It is a, It is about being horny out of your mind and realizing how much control you've surrendered. Imagine if you were in chastity and your key holder called you and dangled the keys in the phone and sent you photos she knew would drive you crazy. It is prolong foreplay. I ended up loving it once I got it. It is probably different for everyone. That was my experience.