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Do you ever wonder if this is something that runs in a bloodline? My parents are straight arrows. But, more than one of my friends have discovered one of their parents or relatives is into the scene.

My parents are straight arrows too. At least, I think so. Maybe there is a hidden room in their house somewhere. One thing I did notice growing up is that my father doted on my mother. Every Friday, from my earliest memories he was brought her flowers. He'd often run a bubble bath for her and tell her to relax while he did the dinner dishes. If there was anything my mother wanted, my father couldn't stand it until she had it. That could be a manifestation of vanilla love. But, I've often wondered if that is were my desire to serve and pamper beautiful women came from. My mother adored my father too. She treated him with love and respect. I see that in the type of Goddesses I choose to serve. I don't like to be talked down to.

I do not believe any of my immediate relatives have the kink gene. But, my great nephew has an active interest in exploring the scene. About 3 years, he came to visit in Florida. He confided in me that one of his friends is into Sm and he wanted to experience the endorphin rush that his friend loves so much. So, lucky him, Michelle Lacy happened to be available that week. I bought a 2 hour session for him. Michelle was even cool enough to have lunch with him first so they could talk and she could get a good read on him. I introduced him to another friend who has the inside scoop on Fort Lauderdale fetish parties. He went to a few of those. He met a young lady who wanted to play so he took her to the Club Dom dungeon. Kink gene or coincidence? I'm not certain. But, there is, at least one, family connection there. We just keep it quiet. I don't want his Grandma (My sister) to know that I'm aiding in his corruption.

It is so sweet when parents are in love and stay together. I was in the minority in that growing up. Most of my friends parents were divorced. I gotta say, it does sound like your father had the subby gene. Maybe it set an example for you. Children tend to emulate their parents.

How do I get into your family? My aunts, however well meaning, were grooming me for a convent.

Lol lol lol Cheyenne best aunt EVER!!!

When I was a kid, I came across my older brother's stash of Female domination magazines. I was too young to understand but I knew that I liked it. He must have caught on that I was snooping through is room because they weren't in the drawer one day. He never said a word. Some years later we were both adults, helping my dad in the yard. I switched on my short sleeve tee shirt for a muscle shirt, nothing any whip marks would show. My brother, very nonchalantly, put his hand on my shoulder and said, "Little brother, you need to put the other shirt on. You don't want pop to notice." It took me a minute to realize what he was talking about. The funny thing about was it couldn't have been much that was showing. Most people would not have noticed or asked what I did to my back. My brother, without saying so, knew. Again, we never talked about it. He obviously doesn't want to so I don't bring it up. It must run in the family somehow.

My parents were as straight as they come so I highly doubt I got it from them. Inheriting the kink trait did enter my mind watching my kids grow up. Tbh I hoped I didn’t pass it on to any of them and looking at them now I’m fairly certain I did not which I’m glad for.

The whole subject of kids getting the personality traits of their parents is an interesting one. I need to find a good book about this actually.

It is interesting that your brother is so stealth on the subject when he obviously knows. I guess it's not a topic that everyone wants to share with people close to them in every day life. Maybe it is a gender thing too. My sister and I know way too much about each other.

Out of curiosity, why are you glad that you didn't pass the kink gene to your children?

I never thought about this until this post appeared. For me, I was brought up by my Mom and her sisters, and went to Catholic grammar school with nuns. (No, never did get hit with rulers, spanked etc. by the nuns and corporal has never been my thing.) My Dad wasn't around, there were a few uncles, but women were the firm voices of authority in my early years. I kinda lived in a woman's world. I didn't get into much trouble, but I always seemed to be the center of attention for some reason. So following a Mistress' rules must be, on some level, natural to me. Also, with dominas I became a regular with and grew close to, they made me the center of attention. Yes, I follow Mistresses' rule and regulations (within reason) but I realized over the years is that in entertaining a Mistress a sub gets all of her attention. That seems to be a turn on for me. Is it a "kink gene"? No, maybe just a matter of circumstance.

I have detected no sign of kink in my parents or siblings.

My gay brother might have an interest, I’m not sure. My parents not at all.

I will say in my case, I was wired to loving dominant women from the day I was born. I loved them in comic books as a kid and that inclination became sexualized the moment I was interested in sex. When I found my dad’s porn mags, the only stuff I wanted to read was the odd femdom letter or article. The rest of it held no interest. I still have some of those letters and articles from 45 years ago.

That is so kewl that you still have the letters and articles from all of those years ago. They must have left quite an impression. Super heroes...oh yeah. Who didn't love Wonder Woman? Cat woman was hot too. But, Wonder Woman was my favorite.

I go to munches a lot and I've met two people who had a similar experience.

One guy was at a spanking munch, just sitting there chatting, waiting.. and his 20 year old daughter walks in. They lock eyes, she looks mortified and she just backed off and went home.

He had never exposed his kink to his family while she was growing up. And though it was hard for him to deal with at first, he realized she was a grown woman free to make choices like this

Eventually, they talked about it and decided to split up events. She'd only go to certain things, he'd go to other things.

And then later I was at a kink party. A woman there introduced me to her son. He was 24 or something and had a slave girt who was his girlfriend.

The woman (mom) explained basically the same story. He (who was moved out to his own apartment) randomly shows up at a munch where she was. Embarrassed, son leaves, they talk about it and a year later they are at the same parties.

“Out of curiosity, why are you glad that you didn't pass the kink gene to your children”

I’ve accepted my kink. It is what it is and I enjoy it. However when I was growing up and for years I felt something was seriously wrong with me and while exciting on some level it’s caused a lot of complications in my life. I’m glad all my kids seem to be normal straight vanilla. Life is just easier that way.

Ah, my favorite was Huntress! Thought did come a little later than my youth. As for the articles, yeah, I love that old stuff. I thought I’d lost my favorites for a decade and then by sheer luck came across them in a box of my stuff at my late father’s house. So lucky. Some of those things inspired my own erotica writings. Here’s showing my age: anyone remember ordering and waiting for brown paper wrapped packages from Canal Station, New York.