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My dynamic is different because my Mistress is my wife. We play a lot but we aren't 24/7 in the dom/sub roles. When we go on vacation, we try to plan it around having a professional session. Usually, she tops along with the Domme. This time, she wants sub along with me. I won't tell her no. She's indulges me in my fantasies. One on hand, I'm excited by the thought of sharing such an emotionally intimate experience with her. On the other, I am concerned it will change the amazing dom/sub exchange that we have. As much as we are equals in every day life, in playtime, she takes absolute control in such a natural and commanding way. I haven't shared my concerns with her. I wouldn't want to make her feel the slightest bit insecure over having shared this fantasy with me. Has anyone else had an experience where you saw or were involved with watching your Mistress be submissive? Did it change anything in your relationship?

Thanks for listening.

Never had that situation, but as I have posted, inadvertently I became a switch with a young Mistress years ago. I was in my mid 40s and she was in her mid to late 20s and often switch roles in session, usually with her topping at the end. The age factor was part of it and we loved it, but it was just the two of us.

In my current situation with my longtime Mistress who is a few years younger than me, I’m in such deep subspace with her, if she wanted me to watch I’d say yes. But if I thought she was, let’s say uncomfortable in the middle of it, I’d become very highly protective. (And I’m being diplomatic in my words.) In reality I doubt it would ever happen. My Mistress is so Alpha she would never consider such a thing. She’s so aggressive sometimes when I’m in a high state of arousal with her, she says she would use me to entertain a couple of girlfriends or take me to a glory hole. It’s all talk… I think. LOL!

During the many years that I sessioned, I think it would have been detrimental to my subspace to see my Mistress sub. Now that I've retired from sessions, I have to admit it would be energizing to see my formers tops sub.

Scooby,

I realize this is somewhat different than the scenario your posting, but I share this with you in the hope that it is somehow helpful and reassuring.

I have had a long term BDSM personal relationship with a non-pro Domme. We have played together hundreds of times over the years and I would say she is absolutely born to be a Domme. However, every once in a while she will lead me down a path to turn the tables. She won't label herself as a "sub". but she does start to refer to me as "Daddy" and herself as "Daddy's bad girl". Our Daddy role play was limited to me being verbally harsh and vulgar with her, along with some spanking and light NT. Nothing at all difficult as she has a low pain tolerance.

At first I was VERY uncomfortable with this scenario!! I had a very hard time getting into the first few times we did it. But she enjoyed the hell out of it, and when we were finished with it she would very quickly transition to a very dominant mindset and play harder and longer then usual. It has become a "win-win" for us. She gets to scratch her very slight submissive itch and I know that as soon as she decides that role play is finished we revert to our natural positions of Domme and sub. I know better buckle up because she is going to completely use, abuse and exhaust me.

I am guessing your wife wants to experience the other side of the tracks to better understand what is going on in your head when you two play. My advice is to follow your instincts and happily join her in this and that the two of you totally enjoy the experience. It will certainly give you a lot to talk about, and your own play will only be better and more enjoyable because of it.

Good luck, relax and enjoy!
Jack

I enjoyed reading about your switching experience with a younger Mistress. It sounds like light hearted fun that you and she both enjoyed very much.

You hit the nail on the head with the protectiveness if you were to see your current Mistress sub. I couldn't put my finger on the apprehension I've been feeling. Thanks for the response.

You bring up a great point about her enjoying the experience, even if it isn't what I would have chosen. Watching her have fun with she tops me is half of the satisfaction for me. Your and jb's responses have been very helpful.