Domspeak Forums Thread Like Summary - Does the Sexual Identity your Mistress matter? ?

I thought about it due to the "permanent damage" thread and the old trope about Mistresses hating men so they beat and punish them. And you could legitimately ask me, "How the hell do you know the sexual preferences of Mistresses you've sessioned with?"

In my case, while activities by Mistresses on video may not accurately portray their sexual preferences, in at least two or three cases I've seen videos of dominant women I sessioned with engaged in erotic and BDSM activities with each other. I asked one of the ladies once, and she said there was an attraction. Years ago, it was well known dominatrix I knew, she had a female partner and the pictures I saw of the partner were gorgeous. Yet with me the Mistress seemed completely heterosexual. Maybe it was all upsell marketing and sales talk. The bottom line for me was and is, I don't care what the sexuality of a Mistress is. All that I care about is the interaction between the dominatrix in who is in the room with me for an hour or more. If the Mistress and I are having a good time, I don't care what her sexual preferences are outside of the scene. I've never met a Mistress who "hated men." Bossy, annoying, lousy at sessions Mistresses, sure. In a couple of cases Dominas way too elderly or too high to do a session. I've either endured them in the first case or walked out in the second. No one "hated" me.

The longer I live the more I think that sexuality, or sexual identity, is fluid. Hell, my kinks now are fluid, doing things I would never have done as a youngster. Thoughts?

I don't have the sources at my fingertips but I recall reading some research that most women are fluid but only about half of men are fluid.

For me the answer is no. What matters is that that they are honest in their transactions with me and give me a session experience as we agreed.
If they are friendly and engaging pre and post session that is a bonus.
Their personal and private sexual preferences are just that.....private.

Good topic. In my bachelor days, I would take the Domme I was seeing at the time and, sometimes, a few of her girlfriends on vacations. You get to know a lot about someone by spending that kind of time together. The social aspect heightened the experience I was seeking at the time. Knowing about their private relationships didn't matter in terms of session interaction. If anything, being friends outside of session enhanced the experience because they knew me too and right down to the buttons to push. Even back then I noticed that a lot of young women are fluid. That was kind of a turn on but, in session, my headspace was all about the Domme and me.