Domspeak Forums Discussions Lobby Does the Sexual Identity your Mistress matter? ?

I thought about it due to the "permanent damage" thread and the old trope about Mistresses hating men so they beat and punish them. And you could legitimately ask me, "How the hell do you know the sexual preferences of Mistresses you've sessioned with?"

In my case, while activities by Mistresses on video may not accurately portray their sexual preferences, in at least two or three cases I've seen videos of dominant women I sessioned with engaged in erotic and BDSM activities with each other. I asked one of the ladies once, and she said there was an attraction. Years ago, it was well known dominatrix I knew, she had a female partner and the pictures I saw of the partner were gorgeous. Yet with me the Mistress seemed completely heterosexual. Maybe it was all upsell marketing and sales talk. The bottom line for me was and is, I don't care what the sexuality of a Mistress is. All that I care about is the interaction between the dominatrix in who is in the room with me for an hour or more. If the Mistress and I are having a good time, I don't care what her sexual preferences are outside of the scene. I've never met a Mistress who "hated men." Bossy, annoying, lousy at sessions Mistresses, sure. In a couple of cases Dominas way too elderly or too high to do a session. I've either endured them in the first case or walked out in the second. No one "hated" me.

The longer I live the more I think that sexuality, or sexual identity, is fluid. Hell, my kinks now are fluid, doing things I would never have done as a youngster. Thoughts?

I don't have the sources at my fingertips but I recall reading some research that most women are fluid but only about half of men are fluid.

For me the answer is no. What matters is that that they are honest in their transactions with me and give me a session experience as we agreed.
If they are friendly and engaging pre and post session that is a bonus.
Their personal and private sexual preferences are just that.....private.

Good topic. In my bachelor days, I would take the Domme I was seeing at the time and, sometimes, a few of her girlfriends on vacations. You get to know a lot about someone by spending that kind of time together. The social aspect heightened the experience I was seeking at the time. Knowing about their private relationships didn't matter in terms of session interaction. If anything, being friends outside of session enhanced the experience because they knew me too and right down to the buttons to push. Even back then I noticed that a lot of young women are fluid. That was kind of a turn on but, in session, my headspace was all about the Domme and me.

I've had a lot of male friends and clients who fantasize about being a house slave to a lesbian couple.

Given what I've seen I just figure like 95% of all women in the scene are bisexual... Or pansexual... Or whatever it is called these days.

There is something sort of hot about an absolutely one sided relationship where the sub LOVES and is ABSOLUTELY ATTRACTED TO the Mistress, and she is a lesbian, with a lesbian lover. They sort of tolerate their slave's sexual antics, but really they deny him because at a fundamental level, they aren't interested in him at all.

They use him as a service slave. They keep him naked and in chastity because they know it's a fantastic way to control him and keep him in line. It's easy to whip his ass on a whim when it's bare, and flick him in the balls when they are on display. They know he CRAVES the chance to watch them naked with each other having something he's not allowed to have - sex. They use that to tease and torture him, and as another vector of control.

He's thrown a bone once in a while just to let out a little steam keep him from exploding, but this is done by the Mistresses more for maintenance of their property than anything else. They don't find his releases sexy, and they make the whole thing humiliating for him and gross. Which is exactly how they regard it.

Maybe they were slighted over the years by men, and this is how they get revenge. Maybe they always thought cocks looked weird and a free swinging cock in their house will never do, so they keep his caged.

But.. I dunno. Is this practical?

I’ve never thought about that house slave scenario before but thinking about it is kind of hot. I like the idea of one of the partners being a bit kinder to the slave and the other much more sadistic cruel and degrading. The kind one doesn’t really care about the slave but she’s just nicer overall.

Mistress A'IE and I made a movie along those lines. I will have to dig around and see if I can find as it was some time ago. The name of it is "Meal Ticket." If I can come up with it, I'll pm you and set up a way for you to download it.

To your point, I love the scenario of one dom being kinder to the male slave, perhaps even to the point that the other dom is jealous of the male. It opens up all kinds of interactions, such as one of the dom's punishing the slave even harder or playing mind games with him whenever she has him alone. There is a lot to roll with there.

I envision a scenario of dominant lesbian (occasionally bi) with a female partner who is submissive to women but dominant (even hateful) toward men. The dynamics would have the female submissive tormenting the male as would a bratty sister. He, being sexually attracted to both, would be susceptible to her incessant teasing and would both dread and crave her attention.

All of this is juicy. I could venture down the path of the less dominant of the women being bi and curious about the male. This ends in her girlfriend finding them together and punishing them side by side. Maybe her demanding them to perform sexual acts while she watches and humiliates them.

I like the way you think though you have a different take on the relationship of the two submissives.
You imply them enjoying each other where as I envision the submissive female enjoying getting the male in trouble with the dominant for any real or contrived transgression. (i.e. he's not allowed an erection and the submissive female knows that just a certain look from her will set him off).
The dominant is aware of her submissive's entrapment of the male and can decide whether to punish the male (to the delight of her female submissive), to punish the female (to the consternation of the male who fears "sister's" retaliation later), and/or both (together or separate depending on the dominant's mood.)
The submissive female may subconsciously desire interacting with a male, but she is not willing to admit it or initiate any sexual interaction.
She would have to be "forced" by her dominant before she would participate.

Thank you Cheyenne. Very nice of you if you can find it.

Yes there are alot of possibilities with this kind of dynamic. I never had any thoughts or fantasies running to this for most of my years but in the last few years stuff involving multiple slaves has crept in. One that would really affect me would be a session with a Domme and a female sub where the Domme orders me to beat or top the sub. It would be very difficult for me running hard against what’s ingrained in me sexually. Actually it occurs to me the same would apply with a male sub. There’s so many ways to go with this. I doubt I will ever have a session like this but anything is possible.

I like the sexy vibe between my wife and the Mistress. It doesn't matter, short of an amputation, what they want to do. I'm there to be there toy.