Domspeak Forums Discussions Lobby Is Stress a Factor in Needing to Play?

When I lived in Chicago there were playgroups at least once a week. I never experienced a deep craving for kink interaction like I am now. It is distracting. A trip to Chitown is in order. My job has been so stressful lately. It has me wondering if that is a factor in this sudden need. I feel like a werewolf during a full moon.

"Werewolf"? Hell yeah. That's why Mistress calls me "beast." Except in recent weeks it is absolutely off the charts.

Recently I've driven Mistress on errands a few times and she always slaps me in the face as a greeting, grabbing my chest hair and talking trash. It has been more intense in between I've had two full sessions with her in three weeks. I have been under outside stress, but with the Mistress' attention... anticipation in meeting her as a driver or session is off the charts. After the two recent sessions, got home and napped in the middle of the day. Quite unusual. Then I woke up both times and within hours, or the next day, I'm completely distracted craving another session. Immediately, like I'm insatiable, which is an amazing feeling but unsustainable. Drove her twice the past few days and she told me not to text this week, only email, she will be busy at work. Mistress texted me a pic of hers when she was active... so she's not helping the situation. LOL! I'm anticipating a session within the week or shortly thereafter when she is free. At least I'm craving it... waiting for her to say when.

Hey Miss Mary, great question.

I understand from your previous posts that you are a switch and enjoy BDSM from both the top and sub perspective. I can't speak to stress impacting the need/desire to play for a top, but from my own submissive perspective I can say with certainty that stress levels absolutely impact me. My career and personal lives have a long history of being the person "in charge" and making all the important, and difficult, decisions. That obligation creates a high degree of stress that at times is just overpowering. When that happens I know I need to offer myself to a Dominatrix who will accept my surrender and remove all decisions and choices from me during our time together. When the chemistry is right and that Domme has pushed my limits to the point where I am physically and emotionally exhausted, I have a strong sense of peace and feel "grounded", ready to go back to my real life until feeling that stress level returns and I again offer myself up in a long session.

Stress certainly is a driver for me, but I also recognize that I absolutely love BDSM and would be involved in it regardless of the effect of stress in my life. I also think I am fortunate to have BDSM to help manage the stress in my life. Some people are unable to find a way to manage it and suffer severe health consequences while others turn to destructive coping measures such as alcohol or drug abuse, gambling and other damaging behaviors.

It is for me. It is an emotional purge of accumulating stress. I have had vanilla sensory deprivation tank therapy. I provided a link below for posters who haven't heard of it. There is a center in my area that has a floating, cold plunge and infrared sauna combo deal. When I want the emotional release but not the expense or corporal aspect from a session, it is a common go to.

https://www.healthline.com/health/sensory-deprivation-tank#cost

It is always a full moon with you. I love it.

You are spot on with the wonderful feeling of surrender and handing all power over for an hour or two. That is the way it is with me. It is almost euphoric before any of play begins to happen. Like you, with or without being under stress, I like to get my freak on. Stress can heighten it. Maybe it is a form of therapy for some of us.

My girl and I did sensory tank deprivation or, floating, as the spas call it. We were in Aspen skiing and hit the day spa. The followed it with a hot stone massage. The combo you had sounds good too but, I don't know if I could take the cold plunge. It is all considered mainstream but, to be real, anyone who likes to float as a kink streak.

That is how it is with my wife. She is a dominant. Sometimes I wonder if she feels out of control at work and likes to take the reigns for cathartic relief. It is the opposite with me. I run a sizable business and, damn, need to hand control over. Throw in a hot female being the one to take control and I'm all in. It doesn't take much for me to start craving it. The only thing that I see as escalating the desire is how long I've been without it.

Thanks for posting this. It is something that I'd like to try.

I hope you get the stress relief you are looking for. It would be more fun than meditation. For me, inspiration to session is seeing a woman in attire that hits my buttons. Even a billboard with a beautiful woman looking like she owns the world and knows it gets my mind spinning. Under stress, I tend to retreat and avoid unnecessary contact. Your way is a better one. I envy you.