Domspeak Forums Discussions Lobby Was Mark Twain right about age?

"Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter."

Mark Twain

Could I sub for a woman who was much younger? Or older than me? Probably. If she carried herself well, had confidence, and was well spoken I probably wouldn't have a problem. And of course being hot/cute/sexy is always a plus.

But if she was much younger/older and those other things didn't hold true, they it would be more difficult.

Of course if she were exactly my age with the same birthday, and those other things didn't hold true then it might still be a problem.

What do y'all think?

Interesting topic. I'm in my late 40's. It would be hard for me to think about submitting to a woman, no matter how hot and well poised, under 25. Older women? I could see see that with the entire package. I don't know how old Musk's wife is. But, a woman who looked like that with all of the right tools, I'd be in.

Looking at this from reverse, I was never put in a situation where age difference bothered me. When I was in my early 40's, a young man fresh out of college booked a session with about every couple of months. He like role play in which he was seduced and then punished by his friend's mother. Our sessions were someone light hearted. I put him in a hanging suspension cage on one of these sessions. He started, playfully, singing "Here's to you, Mrs. Robinson." It was hilarious."

When it came to being too old, the only concern I had was their safety and being certain I had full disclosure of their health. A few of the men in their late 60's- mid 70's, were in better physical shape than some of the much younger clients. But, a few were not and their not having a heart attack or falling was of concern. There were only a handful of men in that category over the years of sessioning. It was rare, thankfully. I never had the heart to turn someone away in that situation.

When it came to my days of a video producer, especially with Subby Hubby, which is a more sexually explicit website, I began by privately interviewing any lady under the age of twenty five. I wanted to know they had no second thoughts about filming and were comfortable with the script. That didn't last very long. I was getting the same answer of, "Heck yeah! I'd be having sex with hot men anyway. Why not get paid for it?" The last interview I did was with Riley Reed. We were one of her first shoots, before she shot to porn stardom and millionaire status. She was an absolute doll of a young lady, cheerful and nice to everyone. When I asked her if she was comfortable with the explicit things we'd be shooting, she started laughing. She thought it was the most absurd questions she'd be asked on somone's set. After that, I stopped interviewing. I did, however, leave the set in the hands of my production manager. I was really uncomfortable with the filming of sex. Which is funny, because filming a man being brutally caned and pegged by multiple women was something I was not only comfortable with but enjoyed.

When I was around 30, single and making good money, I was out of control. Any attractive woman with an uptown attitude had my attention. I could have bought a car in what I spent on sessions over a five year span. No regrets. It was a wonderful time in my life. Now that I am older with different priorities and less opportunity to see a Domme, I am more selective. A lady who carries herself well with the attributes and attitude I like has latitude on age, be in on the younger or older side. The fantasy videos I'm drawn usually feature a Domme in her 20's or 30's.

I have told this story before but will do it here without names due to the activities involved. I got into BDSM not really knowing what the hell it was. I was a 20 or 21 yr. old commuter college kid, living at home with little money. Saw an ad in Screw Magazine (this was in '73 or '74) with a hot mature woman in a B&W pic in leather, with short blonde hair and was busty. Horny, and without a date in a few months, I called. We discussed role play. She worked out of a storefront near NYU in Manhattan. Looking back on the experience she had to be late 40s and damned sexy. She asked if the role play was going to be her as a stepmother, next door neighbor, etc. I said I'd be a shipwrecked sailor (wore a homemade thong of rags) and she'd be the Jungle Queen. She came in wearing a black leather corset and high heels. I learned the joy (and technique) of giving oral sex and, at the end, received the same. Yes... it spoiled me for life. LOL! So I never had a problem with serving a Mistress older than me. I had a two, three sessions with her after that, left the scene until the '80s and she recommended Mistresses that worked for her. Most were my age then (mid-30s) or slightly older. By the '90s I hadn't seen my first Mistress in quite awhile and called her dungeon. She answered and I immediately said I wanted to session with her. She said no, but I talked her into it. I was then early 40s, she had to be close to 70. Still as sexy as ever, so I had no problem with older women.

But now I'm just past 70. In good shape for my age, but when I passed 60 I decided not to session with a lady under 30. I began to think that the ladies were the same age as nieces, daughters, co-workers I had so I stayed away. (Now, no one under 40.) I haven't had to concern myself about that the past few years. I now exclusively serve, and owned by, a now under-the-radar Mistress I originally met around 2000. She looks far younger than her years, but she is in her 60s.

I'm into advanced play, including sensory deprivation, that could go very bad without someone with a high skill level. Age isn't a factor with me as long as the looks are there, along with skill. I will live with being shallow but gotta have both.

I'm as fond of relative youth and good looks in a Domme as the next guy but once in session it's really all about gear and the skills to use it.
I'd take a trim attractive 40/50/60 year old Domme with with a great skill set over a hapless 20-something newb with centerfold looks any day.

Wow! Screw Magazine?!? I thought that was fake, made up for a scene in a Woody Allen movie (Bananas, I think?). Ha! Nice to hear it's real.

This one time... At bondage camp...

I started talking with this blond woman Domme/Switch. She wanted to tie me up and flog me and other stuff. I liked her. She seemed fun... At one point, I think after I took my shirt off, she asked me "how old are you?". I answered truthfully (24? I think I was?) , and she kinda freaked. "That's the same age as my son!"

I said "Listen, I'm not him. I don't know him. Let's not worry about that. I think you are sexy as fuck and I want to worship you like a Goddess."

It worked, for a while anyway... I subbed for a while and it was fun, but at the end the Mom in her came out, which killed the vibe for her. Which kinda sucked because I could have totally slipped into subbing for a Mommy Domme. I would have done all kinds of roleplay.

These days it's almost too easy to find girls younger than me with Daddy issues that are looking for a DaddyDom. That has a certain amount of fun. The last woman I dated was 40, but it was easy to do things like "Ok baby, bathtime! Daddy's going to get you nice and clean in the tub, get you dried off and into your jammies. You can watch cartoons for 1 hour but then it's bedtime. Daddy will tuck you in and kiss you goodnight."

And she knew the goodnight kiss was really goodnight oral sex.

Age inevitably impacts a relationship/dynamic/play... And everything really... But I try not to let it have a negative impact.

LOL! Now THAT'S funny! (Jeez... it reminds me how old I really am.)

Question for you and for all. I found links with pics / history of Mistress Belle online in the past few months. Some are from the time I first met her in the '70s, others the '80s at least. Should I do a new thread and post them? Post them on this thread? Or, for privacy sake, not post anything. To be blunt, if my age difference estimates are correct, she is at least in her 90s if not 100 and probably has passed away. Maybe...