I've done both and think each have their place. However if i had to choose I'd say the "meet and greet" in vanilla mode before the session would be my preference (whether the Domme is in session clothing or not). A gradual shift from chatting about mundane stuff ( traffic , weather etc) to the studio, equipment and potential activities can help slide you gradually into sub mode. The moment when the Domme's tone and posture changes is very hot. In some ways that initial chat followed by the transition to Domme-sub mode is one of my favourite parts of sessioning. The anticipation can be delicious!
I still remember a session with a Boston Domme who had relocated to midcoast Maine. We went from sitting in her living room having a water to walking across to her dungeon located over a large detached garage. Once there we moved to chatting about the gear/furniture and session activities. After a couple of minutes her demeanor changed and she became brisk and quite abrupt. She said something like " all right, when I return I want you naked with your nose on the red dot. Once your nose goes on that dot it doesn't move!" She pointed to a small red sticker on the hardwood floor and then walked out. Waiting like that was VERY exciting and unnerving. It really helped the transition into session mode. Obviously I've waited on my knees before but there was something very powerful about the matter of fact way she gave the order and gestured to that little red sticker. Somehow having my nose pressed against that dot shot me directly into subspace.
Last edited by furfan; 02/14/2024 11:34 AM.
