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This was a new one for me. I'm a simple guy. It is all about foot and leg worship. I will take ass worship when offered. Last week I saw a new Domme. She was a stunner. Her photos were not deceiving. But, she was stumbling through the session. She didn't know what she was doing. When she starting in on the degradation, I had to get out of there. I didn't want to hurt her feelings. It is was obvious she just didn't know what she doing. I spoke up and asked if we could go to lunch instead. We were early into a two our session. There was plenty of time. To my relief, she was very receptive. We went to an upscale restaurant that, much to my delight, had table clothes. This gave way to privacy for foot teasing.

As we relaxed and talked causally, I explained more of what my interests and turn offs were. I had done this on her application. She must not have refreshed herself on it prior to our session time. Everything about her demeanor changed. She was sexy and fun. There was no name calling and cussing. She teased me with her feet as we talked and laughed. She ordered a dessert to go and said it was for me. When we got back to her place she instructed me to eat it from her feet.

I'm not one for bragging. But, what a great save of a date and an $800. day. Everything left on good terms. I would see her again if I was traveling through the area.

My question here to the Ladies and men is have you ever had a time when you had to stop the session?

"This was a new one for me. I'm a simple guy." Ted, your tastes is the scene may be simple, but your reaction in this case was quite elegant and imaginative. Some, hell many, in this day and age, would have made it confrontational and asking for a partial refund, etc. etc.

In my experience over the years, but not in this century, during the during the days of responding to grainy B&W print ads of independent Mistresses, I had two appointments with ladies who either who misrepresented themselves, or were obviously high, or both. In two cases I politely and quickly excused myself, leaving a tribute behind, not so much out of politeness, but to avoid a possible confrontation.
With the third case it was obvious the lady misrepresented herself in her ad. I found out when meeting her she was a former athlete/model from Europe, who was then an interpreter with the U.N. But the grainy picture she used looked like she was in her early 40s, my age then. The picture had to be from 20 or so years before. At first glance you could see that she was probably very alluring years before, and she was quite charming, so I didn't drop the tribute and leave. Instead I decided to at least sit down and chat with her. When she was ready to start the session - her being the Amazon capturing Tarzan - instead of leaving I suggested we do a "next door neighbor" scene, a seduction or peeping tom deal. (P.S. - In my final session was with Belle de Jour, my first Mistress years before, she was still fit and younger looking than her 70 or so years. Maybe because I knew her so well and she looked ageless to me.) With this lady I remember hand spanking, and a bit of seductive teasing was involved. She was pleased at the end and gave me a big hug when I left and I felt better about myself on the drive home.

Thanks for posting an interesting topic. I stopped two sessions out of the many that I have had.

The first was when there was a serious and dangerous equipment malfunction. I was suspended about a foot off the floor when the entire hoist mechanism collapsed form the ceiling and landed on me as I dropped to the floor. This was at a very upscale NYC dungeon. The Domme actually screamed when it happened which of course led to the manager, a woman, rushing into the room screaming at me because she was concerned for the safety of her Domme employee. After a moment of looking at me on the floor and the suspension hoist on the floor, next to me, she realized what had happened and began apologizing. She explained to me that the hoist was supposedly rated for 500 lbs. I was and still am 6'2 and 210 pounds. The hoist had not been attached to any fixed support in the ceiling and just came crashing down on me. She offered to call me an ambulance which I obviously declined but thanked her for. She offered to have the Domme restart the session but I was no longer in the right mental place and I also declined that offer. Other than bruised shoulders and some minor pain in the back of my neck I was fine. The manager graciously gave me back the session fee I had paid and on top of that she gave me a certificate for a free session in the future. I should note that I had sessioned there several times previously with no problem and she was aware of that. I thought she handled it really well once she realized I wasn't a crazy person attacking one of her employees.

The second time I was at another well known dungeon in NYC. This was a heavier bondage session that started just fine but after about 15 minutes I suspected that the Domme was actually trying to conduct 2 sessions in different rooms at the same time. She would be with me for about 15 minutes, then disappear for 15 minutes and then reappear for another short stint with me. When she was not with me I could hear sounds of another session taking place in an adjoining room and then only silence from that room when she was with me. I did not request any abandonment play so I assumed she was in two sessions at the same time and after about an hour I told her I was good to go and to keep the other hour of tribute. Maybe i was mistaken in my assumption and or perhaps she was covering for another Domme who was a no show for a session. in any event the session had become a little boring and I was no longer mentally into it so I knew it was time to call it a day.

The vast majority of me session have been incredibly professional and enjoyable and I chalk these two not so great experiences up as outliers and just plain bad luck.


Jack

You are better than me on this one. If something doesn't appear safe, I cut and run. I've only had that happen twice in 20 years. Once I said I left my wallet in the car and drove off. The other time, she had a deposit. She was a known name. She was, clearly, messed up on something. I was honest on that one. I called her out on it. I've gotta give it to her, she admitted to it. I didn't receive the deposit return that she promised. But, I played drug counselor for an hour and felt I'd done my good deed for the day.

Good for you in turning your session around. From your posts, it sounds like you have the same good track record that I do with over 90% very positive outcomes. I can't complain about a few losses out of hundreds of sessions. Too bad we can't post photos here.

First of all, kudos to you! You come across as a class act.

From the Dom perspective, I don't remember a session that I had to completely change courses on. There is one session that stands out in my mind. A client came to see me when I moved to Rhode Island. He had followed my career from my Ohio days when I just started out. He was very excited to see me. But, when he left, I could tell he was disappointment. I reached out to him. He was polite and honest about what he felt was missing in the session. I asked him to send me an email describing how his fantasies, experiences, interests and how he imagined feeling in a session. He did. We got together again for a second attempt. It was fantastic. He was a weekly client until the time I retired. To this day we stay in touch and are close friends. This experience is what prompted me to stop using questionnaires and ask open ended questions about someone's feelings.

What a nightmare! You could have ended up crippled in first failed session. I've only been to a commercial dungeon twice. It was enjoyable but the personal exchange was not like seeing an independent.

I can't complain about a few disappointing sessions in the hundreds I've had either. It is hard to cause injury with foot worship. If everything wasn't right with corporal and bondage, I would have gotten out of there too.

That is such a nice account. I'm glad it went well for both of you.

I enjoy group role play, usually classroom or domestic. There have been a few times when I've seen someone looking distressed. I call the person into time out and talk with them privately about what is going on with them. Once, there person was able to return to the play session. It just took assuring her that she could safe word without being embarrassed. The other time, it was a young man. It was his first group play. So, I put him in charge of kitchen to have the buffet table ready when the playgroup was over. It worked out great. He felt included at the party and ended up having a good time.