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This was a new one for me. I'm a simple guy. It is all about foot and leg worship. I will take ass worship when offered. Last week I saw a new Domme. She was a stunner. Her photos were not deceiving. But, she was stumbling through the session. She didn't know what she was doing. When she starting in on the degradation, I had to get out of there. I didn't want to hurt her feelings. It is was obvious she just didn't know what she doing. I spoke up and asked if we could go to lunch instead. We were early into a two our session. There was plenty of time. To my relief, she was very receptive. We went to an upscale restaurant that, much to my delight, had table clothes. This gave way to privacy for foot teasing.

As we relaxed and talked causally, I explained more of what my interests and turn offs were. I had done this on her application. She must not have refreshed herself on it prior to our session time. Everything about her demeanor changed. She was sexy and fun. There was no name calling and cussing. She teased me with her feet as we talked and laughed. She ordered a dessert to go and said it was for me. When we got back to her place she instructed me to eat it from her feet.

I'm not one for bragging. But, what a great save of a date and an $800. day. Everything left on good terms. I would see her again if I was traveling through the area.

My question here to the Ladies and men is have you ever had a time when you had to stop the session?

Thanks for posting an interesting topic. I stopped two sessions out of the many that I have had.

The first was when there was a serious and dangerous equipment malfunction. I was suspended about a foot off the floor when the entire hoist mechanism collapsed form the ceiling and landed on me as I dropped to the floor. This was at a very upscale NYC dungeon. The Domme actually screamed when it happened which of course led to the manager, a woman, rushing into the room screaming at me because she was concerned for the safety of her Domme employee. After a moment of looking at me on the floor and the suspension hoist on the floor, next to me, she realized what had happened and began apologizing. She explained to me that the hoist was supposedly rated for 500 lbs. I was and still am 6'2 and 210 pounds. The hoist had not been attached to any fixed support in the ceiling and just came crashing down on me. She offered to call me an ambulance which I obviously declined but thanked her for. She offered to have the Domme restart the session but I was no longer in the right mental place and I also declined that offer. Other than bruised shoulders and some minor pain in the back of my neck I was fine. The manager graciously gave me back the session fee I had paid and on top of that she gave me a certificate for a free session in the future. I should note that I had sessioned there several times previously with no problem and she was aware of that. I thought she handled it really well once she realized I wasn't a crazy person attacking one of her employees.

The second time I was at another well known dungeon in NYC. This was a heavier bondage session that started just fine but after about 15 minutes I suspected that the Domme was actually trying to conduct 2 sessions in different rooms at the same time. She would be with me for about 15 minutes, then disappear for 15 minutes and then reappear for another short stint with me. When she was not with me I could hear sounds of another session taking place in an adjoining room and then only silence from that room when she was with me. I did not request any abandonment play so I assumed she was in two sessions at the same time and after about an hour I told her I was good to go and to keep the other hour of tribute. Maybe i was mistaken in my assumption and or perhaps she was covering for another Domme who was a no show for a session. in any event the session had become a little boring and I was no longer mentally into it so I knew it was time to call it a day.

The vast majority of me session have been incredibly professional and enjoyable and I chalk these two not so great experiences up as outliers and just plain bad luck.


Jack

You are better than me on this one. If something doesn't appear safe, I cut and run. I've only had that happen twice in 20 years. Once I said I left my wallet in the car and drove off. The other time, she had a deposit. She was a known name. She was, clearly, messed up on something. I was honest on that one. I called her out on it. I've gotta give it to her, she admitted to it. I didn't receive the deposit return that she promised. But, I played drug counselor for an hour and felt I'd done my good deed for the day.

Good for you in turning your session around. From your posts, it sounds like you have the same good track record that I do with over 90% very positive outcomes. I can't complain about a few losses out of hundreds of sessions. Too bad we can't post photos here.